The “Macho” Culture

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Okay, being the eldest son of the eldest of the eldest, there are things that has been put on my shoulders that I had to carry. Let me clarify, I am the oldest son, of my grandparents son, and my late grandfather is the oldest son of yet, my grandfather’s father is also the oldest. So, what then? If you are living in a culture that is so diverse, as you all know Philippines has been colonized by Spain for 300 years, then Japan, and then Americans (I do not want to tackle history but I do not know if I am making any sense really). As what I am saying, being in a culture that is so diverse yet there is this tradition wherein if you are the eldest, there are so many expectations (I did not meet any).

Where did everything start?

I came in a family wherein some are politicians, and most are part of the Arm Forces of the Philippines and some are part of the Philippine National Police so you can imagine now that my childhood were lived under strict governance of military/police/politicians regimens where do’s and don’ts are being imposed and you do not have the right to ask why. I was asked to join the military but I left them as it never came to my mind that I will be one as my dream profession until now is to become a Psychologist.

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As a child, there were so many things that were pressed on me. Things that if not done, I should be prepared to be hanged on a tree, to be hit with a stick, belt buckle, or sometimes they will punch or kick me straight to the face. The worst is being hit with a pair of leather shoes on my face. The twist was, I must not cry as if I will, I will be hit more and harder. During those days, I promised that if being in authority gives you right to hurt people physically if they will not be able to do what you wanted to be done, then, I will not be part of the military nor hold any title that will give authority.

I had great fascination with arts and sciences and had always been amazed by the things that I read. But the more I become fascinated with arts and sciences, the angrier they were. The only one who was proud of me joining or winning arts competitions was my late grandfather. He would always let me sit on his lap while me showing what I have painted and why I have painted such.

The Rise of the Tiger

As someone who was into arts and sciences as a child, I was a victim of bullying and it has always been like that until college days wherein I led people into going against things that are not really needed by the school as I believe that we have to focus more on the quality of education not in using fancy uniforms just to show off. I earned respect by doing so that they I was constantly being asked to join the student council which I decided not to as I made a promise when I was a child that I will not hold any title that will give me authority and I realized that I can earn respect.

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The Effects of “Macho” Culture on Me

I was a college student when I first had my first kiss, not with a girl, but with a guy. I was so scared that I had tremors and questions were like “what if my uncles will find out?” “What if my family will not accept me?” Due to my denial of my real nature, I agreed to join the military thinking that what was happened was just because of mere curiosity but when the time came that I had to join the Armed Forces of the Philippines, I ran away. I did not visit them, nor even started communication. I went into hiding as I know I am such a failure to them that I will not be accepted. I could tell people then that I never had a happy childhood.

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What I am now?

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I am a call centre agent working in one of the call center company here in Mandaluyong City and staying at the National Capital Region’s biggest city, Quezon City. A health and fitness enthusiast, into Mixed Martial Arts, and this coming October, I will have my first fight ever. I hope then, that at some point my family will be able to accept who I am, that I will never be what they wanted me to be. I do not know if how many children out there who are currently having the miseries that I had but I can say that life is not about Gender, Religion, or Sexual Orientation. It is about how you apply the word “humanity” as what the Dalai Lama said:

kindness is my religion

AND AS FOR ME, it is about HOW WE

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Green Tea Dilemma

I usually drink green tea like 1 sachet a day every afternoon on my office desk 30 minutes before taking my lunch break. Now, it came to my mind if green tea is good or bad. Well, anything that is too much is bad for you I must say. But, some people that I know will not even try drinking not even green teas.

If you are part of a very big and constantly growing religious organization like The Church of Jesus Christ of the Latter-day Saint or simply known as mormons, then you will not even dare to drink tea. I was part of the church and know, guess what? I am a Luciferian. Well, I am not going to tell more about the religious dum dum here. I am having thoughts about why you should or should not drink green tea.

Let us take a look at what they call “Word of Wisdom” which can be found at their site (https://www.lds.org/topics/word-of-wisdom?lang=eng)

What is the Word of Wisdom?

The Word of Wisdom is a law of health revealed by the Lord for the physical and spiritual benefit of His children. On February 27, 1833, as recorded in section 89 of the Doctrine and Covenants, the Lord revealed which foods are good for us to eat and which substances are not good for the human body. He also promised health, protection, knowledge, and wisdom to those who obey the Word of Wisdom.

In the Word of Wisdom, the Lord revealed that the following substances are harmful:

Alcoholic drinks (see D&C 89:5-7).

Tobacco (see D&C 89:8).

Tea and coffee (see D&C 89:9; latter-day prophets have taught that the term “hot drinks,” as written in this verse, refers to tea and coffee).

When people purposefully take anything harmful into their bodies, they are not living in harmony with the Word of Wisdom. Illegal drugs can especially destroy those who use them. The abuse of prescription drugs is also destructive spiritually and physically.

The Lord also declared in the Word of Wisdom that the following foods are good:

Vegetables and fruits, which should be used “with prudence and thanksgiving” (see D&C 89:10-11).

The flesh “of beasts and of the fowls of the air,” which is “to be used sparingly” (see D&C 89:12-13).

Grains such as wheat, rice, and oats, which are “the staff of life” (see D&C 89:14-17).

To those who keep the Word of Wisdom, the Lord promised:

“All saints who remember to keep and do these sayings, walking in obedience to the commandments, shall receive health in their navel and marrow to their bones;

“And shall find wisdom and great treasures of knowledge, even hidden treasures;

“And shall run and not be weary, and shall walk and not faint.

“And I, the Lord, give unto them a promise, that the destroying angel shall pass by them, as the children of Israel, and not slay them” (D&C 89:18-21).

The best course is to completely avoid the substances that the Lord prohibits in the Word of Wisdom. Those who have engaged in addictive behaviors can stop and become free from addiction. Through personal effort, strength from the Lord, help from family members and friends, and guidance from Church leaders, anyone can overcome addiction.

So, are you gonna drink green tea or not? Now let us take a look at what a green tea can benefit drinkers (http://www.livestrong.com/article/180974-lipton-green-tea-benefits/) which are Immunity Boost and Healthy Heart:

Immunity Boost

Green tea may boost your immune system, helping to ward off illnesses. In a study published in the “Journal of the American College of Nutrition” in 2007, researchers gave some participants green-tea capsules twice daily and other participants a placebo. At the end of the three-month trial, 32 percent fewer subjects in the green-tea group experienced cold or flu symptoms. In addition, those taking green tea had higher levels of gammadelta T cells, which help fight infection. While green tea is not a substitute for vaccines or other medicines, drinking it might help you stay well during flu season.

A Healthy Heart

A number of studies link green tea consumption to improved heart health, according to Harvard Health Publications. While more research is needed to confirm these results, scientists have found green tea to reduce levels of low-density lipoprotein — the kind of cholesterol that builds up on artery walls — as well as lower the risk of heart disease and stroke. Some of these studies were performed using catechin capsules, however, so Lipton green tea may not duplicate the effects.

In addition to that, it can also aid in weight loss as from what I have experienced, from 158 lbs, I am now at fluctuating from 160 lbs to 156 lbs (I guess water retention is affecting the fluctuation), by drinking green tea and of course, you should accompany it with proper diet and exercise. What is good in drinking green tea if you do not have control or discipline in eating foods that contain bad fats? It is up for you to decide if you should or you should not drink green tea. Of course, any thing that is too much is not good for your health as everything needs to be taken at certain moderation. Like what I have said, I only drink it once a day, in the afternoon at my office desk. Again, moderation is the key. Even listening to music is good, can be harmful when you are using your headphones at the loudest settings for long hours.

Congratulations to my Fella!

At this early, I want to congratulate my fella Queeney Saenz as she will compete this coming TPG 5: Retribution Fight Supremacy this coming August 27, 2015.

MMA-CDO

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TPG 5: Retribution Cage supremacy

  • DATE: August 27, 2015
  • Venue: The Atrium Limketkai Center, Limketkai CDO City
  • TIME: Show starts at 8pm gates open 6pm

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